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Home > News & Articles > News > Tossing your hat over the wall

Tossing your hat over the wall

7th September, 2009 by Trevor Silvester

In one of his last speeches John F Kennedy spoke about how Frank O’Connor the Irish writer, spoke in one of his books, how, as a boy, he and his friends would make their way across the countryside, and when they came to an orchard wall that seemed too high and too doubtful to try and too difficult to permit their voyage to continue, they took off their hats and tossed them over the wall – and then they had no choice but to follow them.

In life there are always reasons to be cautious, and sometimes it’s obviously right to be so, but I see a lot of clients who seem to have forgotten that they are mortal. They worry about what’s ahead to the point where they keep themselves stuck in their present unhappiness.

If we’re lucky there will be a moment on our death-bed when we have a chance to look back on our life and assess the choices we made. And I bet few will applaud the times we didn’t take a chance, or commit to something that could fail, and remember with pride the times they stepped into the unknown.

For me, leaving a police career 18 years into it in order to pursue as a risky living something I had fallen in love with, was one of my big ‘throw my hat’ moments and has led to a life that feels blessed – and I know I’ll smile at the memory when I breathe my last. So I really encourage you to find some walls that seem too tall to climb, and throw your hat. You’ll enjoy the climb as much as the view from the top.

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  1. Gravatar for Anita MitchellAnita Mitchell says

    7th September, 2009 at 10:32 pm

    …and if you have a proble with heights, I know someone who can help with that too … ๐Ÿ˜‰

  2. Gravatar for Ali TurnerAli Turner says

    8th September, 2009 at 11:53 am

    Yesterday I went on a race track on a motorbike and went so fast, leant over so far, that my knee touched the tarmac, leaving a scrape on my knee ‘slider’ (plastic piece attached to knee).

    It’s been a dream which I never actually believed I would achieve. Until Saturday when I had a hypnotherapy session with a fellow Questie. We did no work related to motorbikes or track riding, leaning over or moving about on a bike that’s doing 110mph.

    We worked only on my belief that as a slightly ‘comfortable’ woman in her early 40’s I didn’t think I actually belonged out there doing those things – and we did the whole thing as a metaphor.

    I left believing I deserved that experience as much as the next (slim bloke in his 20’s!). I followed an instructor around the track and thought – logically, if I do exactly what he’s doing, technically I should get the same results??

    I did. I threw my hat over the wall and gave myself no other choice but to succeed.

    Another inspiring life lesson to drop into the bag ๐Ÿ™‚

    Thank you Trevor!

  3. Gravatar for Daniel MartinezDaniel Martinez says

    22nd September, 2009 at 3:58 pm

    Ali – that’s fantastic!!! Congratulations on such an incredible accomplishment.

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